Ayat al Kursi

Ayat al Kursi

- آية الكرسي -

the Verse of the Throne

Ubayy bin Ka'b (radiAllahu anhu) reported: The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: "Abu Mundhir! Do you know which Ayah in Allah's Book is the greatest? I said: 'Allah and His messenger know best.'
He (peace be upon him) again said: 'Do you know which Ayah in Allah's Book, according to you, is the greatest?' I (Abu Mundhir) replied: ‘It is 'Allah la ilaha illa Huwal-Hayyul-Qayyum'.[2:255].
Thereupon he (peace be upon him) patted me in the chest and said, ' Rejoice by your knowledge, O Abu Mundhir! (i.e, may this knowledge be a source of respect, honour and benefit to you)'."
[Muslim]


Asma' bint Yazid (radiAllahu anhu) reported, ' I heard the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) say about these two following Ayahs, i.e, verses: "Allah! There is no god but He - the Living, The Self-subsisting, Eternal. [2:255], And, Alif Lam Mim, Allah! There is no god but He - the Living, The Self-subsisting, Eternal [3:1-2], That they contain Allah's Greatest Name."
[Imam Ahmed bin Hanbal in his Musnad]


Abu Umamah Al-Bahili (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "The one who recites it after each of the obligatory prayers, then death will be the only thing preventing him from entering Paradise."
[Ibn Sunni, Ibn Hibban]


Abu Dhar said; O Messenger of Allah, what is the greatest thing that has been revealed to you?’ He said, Ayat al-Kursi, 'Allah! La ilaha illa Huwa'
[an-Nasa'i]


When you lie down in your bed, recite ayat al-Kursi, Allah! La ilaha illa Huwa (none has the right to be worshipped but He), the Ever Living, the One Who sustains and protects all that exists… [al-Baraqah 2:255] until the end of the ayah, then you will have a protector from Allah and no shaytan (devil) will come near you until morning comes
[Sahih al-Bukhari]


Abu Hurairah (radiAllahu anhu) narrated; In Surah al-Baqaraah there is an ayah which is the best of all the ayahs of the Qur’an. It is never recited in a house but the Shaytan leaves: Ayat al-Kursi.

Everything has its pinnacle and the pinnacle of the Qur’an is Surah al-Baqarah. In it there is an ayah which is the greatest in the Qur’an: Ayat al-Kursi
[at-Tirmidhi]


Do you know the Ayatul Kursi?" Anas (radiAllahu anhu) replied "I know". The Prophet (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said, "It is equal to a quarter of the Qur'an

اللَّهُ لاَ إِلَهَ إِلاَّ هُوَ الْحَيُّ الْقَيُّومُ لاَ تَأْخُذُهُ سِنَةٌ وَلاَ نَوْمٌ لَهُ مَا فِي السَّمَاوَاتِ وَمَا فِي الأَرْضِ مَنْ ذَا الَّذِي يَشْفَعُ عِنْدَهُ إِلاَّ بِإِذْنِهِ يَعْلَمُ مَا بَيْنَ أَيْدِيهِمْ وَمَا خَلْفَهُمْ وَلاَ يُحِيطُونَ بِشَيْءٍ مِنْ عِلْمِهِ إِلاَّ بِمَا شَاءَ وَسِعَ كُرْسِيُّهُ

السَّمَاواتِ وَالأَرْضَ وَلاَ يَئُودُهُ حِفْظُهُمَا وَهُوَ الْعَلِيُّ الْعَظِيمُ

Allahu la ilaha illa Huwa, Al-Haiyul-Qaiyum La ta'khudhuhu sinatun wa la nawm, lahu ma fis-samawati wa ma fil-'ard Man dhal-ladhi yashfa'u 'indahu illa bi-idhnihi Ya'lamu ma baina aidihim wa ma khalfahum, wa la yuhituna bi shai'im-min 'ilmihi illa bima sha'a Wasi'a kursiyuhus-samawati wal ard, wa la ya'uduhu hifdhuhuma Wa Huwal 'Aliyul-Adheem

Allah! There is no god but He,-the Living, the Self-subsisting, Eternal. No slumber can seize Him nor sleep. His are all things in the heavens and on earth. Who is there can intercede in His presence except as He permitteth? He knoweth what (appeareth to His creatures as) before or after or behind them. Nor shall they compass aught of His knowledge except as He willeth. His Throne doth extend over the heavens and the earth, and He feeleth no fatigue in guarding and preserving them for He is the Most High, the Supreme (in glory).

اللَّهُ = Allah

لَا = No

إِلَٰهَ = God

إِلَّا = But

هُوَ = He

الْحَيُّ = Living

الْقَيُّومُ = Self-subsisting, Eternal

لَا = No

تَأْخُذُهُ = Take (Overtake)

سِنَةٌ = Slumber (Tiredness)

وَلَا = Nor

نَوْمٌ = Sleep

لَّهُ = To Him belongs

مَا فِي = what in

السَّمَاوَاتِ = Skies (Heaven)

وَمَا فِي = And what in

الْأَرْضِ = Land or earth

مَن = Who

ذَا الَّذِي = There can

يَشْفَعُ - Intercede

عِندَهُ = Him

إِلَّا = But

بِإِذْنِهِ = Permission (Without his permission)

يَعْلَمُ = Know (appeareth to His creatures as)

مَا = What

بَيْنَ = Between

أَيْدِيهِمْ = Hands

وَمَ = and what

خَلْفَهُمْ = Behind them

وَلَا = Nor

يُحِيطُونَ = Take (Nor shall they take)

بِشَيْءٍ = Anything

مِّنْ = From

عِلْمِهِ = His knowledge

إِلَّا = But or without

بِمَا = Including

شَاءَ = Will

Nor shall they compass aught of His knowledge except as He will

وَسِعَ = Expand

كُرْسِيُّهُ = Throne or chair

السَّمَاوَاتِ = Skies or heaven

وَالْأَرْضَ = Earth or land

His Throne doth extend over the heavens and the earth

وَلَا =Nor

يَئُودُهُ = Fatigeu

حِفْظُهُمَا = Protecting , saving

وَهُوَ = And He

الْعَلِيُّ = Most high

الْعَظِيمُ = Great

and He feeleth no fatigue in guarding and preserving them for He is the Most High, the Supreme (in glory).

Al-Fatiha / The Opening

We are starting with

Surat al-Fatiha

I would like to give a link which explains about Surat al-Fatiha and it will be very good if you read it

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/islam-studies/mother-of-the-scripture/

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/islam-studies/surat-al-fatiha/

أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم

1. In the Name of Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.

2. All the praises and thanks be to Allah, the Lord of the 'Alamin (mankind, jinns and all that exists).

3. The Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful.

4. The Only Owner (and the Only Ruling Judge) of the Day of Recompense (i.e. the Day of Resurrection)

5. You (Alone) we worship, and You (Alone) we ask for help (for each and everything).

6. Guide us to the Straight Way

7. The Way of those on whom You have bestowed Your Grace, not (the way) of those who earned Your Anger (such as the Jews), nor of those who went astray (such as the Christians).

الفاتحة = Opening

أعوذ = seek refuge

بالله = In Allah

من = From

الشيطان =

Satan

الرجيم = Cursed , treacherous

1

بِسْمِ = In the name

اللهِ = Allah

الرَّحْمنِ = Gracious

الرَّحِيمِ = Merciful

2

الْحَمْدُ = Praise (All the praises and thanks be to)

لِلَّهِ = Allah

رَبِّ = the Lord

الْعَالَمِينَ = Universe ( the Cherisher and Sustainer of the worlds)

3

الرَّحْمَٰنِ = Gracious (Most Gracious)

الرَّحِيمِ = Merciful (Most Merciful)

4

مَالِكِ = Owner

يَوْمِ = Day

الدِّينِ = Judgement

Master of the Day of Judgment.

5

إِيَّاكَ = Thee

نَعْبُدُ = Worship

وَإِيَّاكَ = And Thee

نَسْتَعِينُ = Ask for help

Thee (Alone) we worship, and Thee (Alone) we ask for help (for each and everything).

6

اهْدِنَا = Guide

الصِّرَاطَ = Path

الْمُسْتَقِيمَ = Straight

Guide us to the Straight Way(path)

7

صِرَاطَ = Path

الَّذِينَ = those

أَنْعَمْتَ = bestowed Thy Grace,

عَلَيْهِمْ = On whom

غَيْرِ = not (the way)

الْمَغْضُوبِ = Anger (Earned your anger)

عَلَيْهِمْ = On whom

وَلَا = Not

الضَّالِّينَ = Astray

The Way of those on whom You have bestowed Your Grace, not (the way) of those who earned Your Anger (such as the Jews), nor of those who went astray (such as the Christians).

They did not benefit - 005

I remember once receiving a message on my mobile phone

which read: “Dear Shaykh, what is the ruling on suicide?”

I called the sender to find a very young man on the other

end of the line. I said, “I am sorry, I didn’t understand your question.

Can you please repeat your question?”

He said with a grieving voice, “The question is clear. What is

the ruling on suicide?”

I decided to surprise him by saying in response something

unexpected, so I said, “It is recommended!”

He screamed, “What?!”

I said, “How about if we discuss the best way for you to do

it?”

The young man fell silent. I said to him, “OK. Why do you

want to commit suicide?”

He said, “Because, I can’t find work. People do not love me.

In fact, I am an utter failure...”, and thus he began to relate to me

his long story in order to prove that he had failed to develop his

interpersonal skills and was unsuccessful in utilising his talents.

This is a problem with many people. Why do some of us feel

inferior? Why do we look at those at the peak of the mountain

while thinking of ourselves as unworthy of reaching that peak as

they have, or even climbing it as they did?

The one frightened of climbing mountains

forever lives in the ditches

Do you wish to know who will not benefit from this book,

or any other similar book, for that matter? It is the unfortunate

one who surrenders to his own errors and becomes satisfied

with his limited skills, and says, “This is my nature. I have become

too used to it now; I cannot change my ways. Everyone knows

this is how I am. I can never speak like Khalid does, or have a

cheerful countenance like Ahmad has, or be universally loved the

way Ziyad is. That would be impossible.”

I once sat with a very old man in a public gathering. Most

of those present were people with the usual skills and abilities.

The old man was busy speaking to whoever was sitting next to

him. He did not stand out in the crowd for any reason, except by

virtue of his old age.

I delivered a lecture and during it mentioned a verdict given

by the eminent Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Aziz bin Baz. When I finished, the

old man said to me with pride, “Shaykh Ibn Baz and I were colleagues.

We used to study together in a mosque under Shaykh

Muhammad bin Ibrahim, about forty years ago.”

I turned around to look at him and noticed that he seemed

very happy to share this information with me. He was delighted

to have accompanied a successful man once in his life. I said to

myself, “Poor man! Why did you not become as successful as Ibn

Baz? If you knew the way to success, why did you not pursue it?

Why is it that when Ibn Baz passes away, people cry for him from

the pulpits, mihrabs, and institutes, and various nations grieve

over the loss; yet, when your death comes, perhaps, nobody

would shed a single tear, except out of kindness or custom!”

We all may say at some time or another, “We knew so-andso

and we sat with so-and-so.” But this is nothing to be proud of.

What one can be proud of is to scale the peak as they did.

Be brave and from now on be determined to utilise all the

abilities you possess. Be successful. Replace the frown on your

face with a smile, depression with cheerfulness, miserliness with

generosity, and anger with perseverance. Turn your calamities

into occasions of joy and your faith into a weapon!

Enjoy your life, for it is brief and there is no time in it for

anguish. As for how to do this, then this is the reason for my

writing this book. So bear with me until the end, with Allah’s

permission.

You will bear with us if...

You are brave enough to be determined and persistent on

the development of your interpersonal skills, and if you are willing

to take advantage of your abilities and talents.

Introduction - 004

All praise is due to Allah. May Allah’s peace and blessings be

upon the one after whom there is no other prophet.

As a seventeen year old, I came across a book called, ‘How

to Win Friends and Influence People’ by Dale Carnegie, which I

found to be quite excellent and which I subsequently read several

times. The author suggested that one should read the book

once a month, which is exactly what I did. I began to apply its

principles when dealing with others and witnessed amazing results.

Carnegie would often mention a principle and then cite various

examples of this by way of incidents related to prominent

figures, such as Roosevelt, Lincoln, Joseph, and so on.

I contemplated and realised that the author’s only goal was

to attain worldly happiness. What if he were to have known Islam

and the etiquettes it teaches? He would surely have achieved

eternal as well as ephemeral happiness! How about if he were to

have turned his wonderful interpersonal skills into worship, with

which he would have drawn closer to Allah? When I later discovered

that Carnegie had committed suicide, I knew for certain

that his book, despite its merits, had not benefitted him.

I then began to search our own history and discovered that

the life of Allah’s Messenger , his Companions, and anecdotes

of some of the prominent men of this ummah are more than

enough for us to learn lessons from. From then on, I began to author

this book concerning the art of dealing with others. Hence,

this book is not the product of a month or a year’s toil. Rather,

it is the result of twenty years of serious study.

Although Allah has blessed me with the ability to have produced

twenty books so far, some of which have been printed

in their millions, I nevertheless believe that the most beloved,

precious and beneficial of all of them to me is this book, which I

wrote with ink blended with my blood; I poured out my soul and

squeezed out my memories as I wrote these lines.

I have written these words from the very depths of my

heart so it may penetrate the heart of the reader, and would

be delighted to learn that he or she has indeed implemented

its teachings, experienced an improvement in his or her skills,

and therefore actually began enjoying life. If he or she were to

then thankfully write a message expressing his or her views and

feelings honestly and send it to me via email or SMS, I would be

grateful for this kindness and remember to pray for him or her

in their absence.

I pray to Allah that the reader benefits from these pages, and

that He makes my efforts purely for His sake.

Written by the one who is always praying for what is best

for you.

Dr. Muhammad bin ‘Abd al-Rahman al-‘Arifi

Publisher’s Foreword - 003

It so happened that in the year 2007, I was in the city of the

Prophet . It has been my old habit that whenever I travel to

a city, I always make it a point to visit all its bookstores. When

it comes to books, the city of Madinah is in its own league. In

the bookstores of Madinah, one is bound to come across all

the newly published literature − and shopping for books is, of

course, my favourite pastime. The staff who work at most of the

bookstores near the Prophet’s Mosque know me on a personal

basis, as a large number of Darussalam’s publications are available

at these stores.

One day, when I was visiting one of these bookstores, I looked

at the shelves and noticed a book called, ‘Enjoy Your Life’. Just as

I was about to pick it up, Abu ‘Abdullah greeted me, hugged me,

and asked, ‘When did you arrive? How long are you here for?’

Meanwhile, I reached out for the book… Abu ‘Abdullah, who is

originally from Yemen, has been involved in the book market for

a long time. He is one of the many Darussalam distributors. He

noticed the book in my hand and said, ‘This book is excellent.

If you were to publish its translation, it would be considered a

valuable addition to the international Islamic book collection.’

He continued as he held my hand, ‘This book has made a record

number of sales.’

Some time later, in my hotel room, I began reading the book.

As I continued reading, I became more and more captivated by

it. There is no doubt that the subject of the book itself was the

thing that most interested me.

Solutions to all the problems of the Muslim nation are present

in the life of Allah’s Messenger . His life is certainly an example

for us to follow and a model for us to refer to at all times. No

matter what problem arises in our lives, if we look to the Prophet’s

Seerah for a solution, we will surely find it.What makes this

book outstanding is that it deals with our social problems in light

of the Prophetic lifestyle. The work is filled with incidents from

the Seerah, Islamic history, and the author’s own experiences.

By reading this book and implementing it practically, all of us can

make our lives more enjoyable and more tranquil.

This book includes remedies for despondency and numerous

tips on how to keep worries and stress at bay. The author of

this book, Dr. Muhammad bin ‘Abd ar-Rahman al-‘Arifi is a well

known scholar and lecturer from Saudi Arabia. His audiences are

left mesmerised during his lectures as he has such a unique way

of speaking that even us, the non-Arabs, are enchanted by his

words. A visit to any of the Islamic audiocassette shops in this

land gives proof to the popularity of this talented lecturer, and a

single hearing of any of his lectures guarantees addiction!

When I returned to Riyadh from Madinah, I requested one of

our Egyptian Darussalam associates, Muhammad Shakir Qadhi,

to establish contact with Dr. Al-‘Arifi and to request permission

for the translation of his book. After a few days, we managed to

establish contact with Dr. Al-‘Arifi. Fortunately, for us, he was

already familiar with Darussalam. As he said himself, most of the

books he takes on his international travels are of Darussalam

publications. It is always easier to work towards an agreement

if there is preceding familiarity. We invited Dr. Al-‘Arifi over to

Darussalam’s headquarters for a visit, and he gladly accepted the

invitation. Thus, we had the pleasure of his company.

I found him to be just as handsome and immaculate as are

his works and lectures. He has a unique and charming character

and a very humble personality. I know from my experience

with people in the Islamic world, that the more famous and well

respected a person becomes, the more modest and noble is his

behaviour. Dr. Al-‘Arifi signed the contract with Darussalam and

then excused himself, saying he was in a hurry and that he would

return soon to discuss further details.

After a couple of weeks or so, as I was travelling once again to

Madinah, I coincidently noticed Dr. Al-‘Arifi seated on the same

plane. As the seat besides him was empty, we had the opportunity

to sit together and familiarise ourselves with each other

even more. We spoke at length and felt closer to one another. A

few days later, he returned to Darussalam and gave us a number

of new suggestions. We introduced him to some of our projects,

and it was then decided that Darussalam would translate his

books into various languages.

He explained how his book, ‘Enjoy Your Life’ is in reality a

summary of his entire life experience. He spent a considerable

amount of time authoring this book. There is no doubt that he

wrote this work from the very depths of his heart, and one really

must read it to realise and acknowledge the beauty of it. This

book was published in Arabic in Sha’ban 1428AH, corresponding

to August 2007, and within the span of one year, it had sold

100,000 copies.

As mentioned previously, Dr. Muhammad al-‘Arifi is indigenously

from Saudi Arabia. He is from the famous Arab tribe

known as Banu Khalid (Banu Makhzum) − it goes without mentioning

that Banu Khalid are the descendants of the famous soldier,

Mujahid and Companion of the Prophet, Khalid bin al-Walid

– may Allah be pleased with him. Dr. Muhammad bin ‘Abd ar-Rahman

al-‘Arifi was born in the year 1970. He graduated from Saudi

universities where he acquired his PhD. The title of his PhD research

thesis was “Ara’ Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyya fi al-Sufiyya

– Jam’ wa Dirasah” (The Views of Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah

on Sufism – a Compilation and Study).

Currently, he is a founding and dignitary member of various

Da’wah organisations, as well as being a member of their advisory

committees. He is also a member of the advisory board for many

international organisations. Aside from being a visiting professor

in various Saudi and foreign universities, he is also a professor

in King Saud University of Riyadh. He has been delivering Friday

sermons for over twenty years in different mosques in Saudi

Arabia. Currently, he delivers his Friday sermons in al-Bawaardi

mosque, which is a major mosque located in the south of Riyadh.

Every Friday, so many people attend, that it is impossible to find

a parking space anywhere in the vicinity of the mosque. Once I

had the opportunity of praying the Friday prayer behind Dr. Al

‘Arifi.We arrived at the mosque very early, but despite that, we

had to park very far away. The ground floor of the mosque was

fully occupied, so we went up to the first floor where we were

able to find a place to sit. Soon afterwards, the first floor also

became congested with worshippers. Dr. Muhammad al-‘Arifi is

an amazing orator. He was fortunate enough to be a student of

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Aziz bin Baz for fifteen to sixteen years, and from

whom he learnt Tafseer and Fiqh. For eight years, he took lessons

from Dr. ‘Abdullah al-Jibrin in Tawheed. His other teachers

include, Shaykh ‘Abdullah bin Qu’ud, Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahman bin

Nasir al-Barrak and various other scholars. His connections with

the scholars of Madinah go back very far. During his days as a student

and thereafter, he learnt Fiqh from those scholars. He has

memorised the Qur’an and is known for his fine recitation. He

takes a special interest in Hadeeth literature and has received

licences for the chains of transmission for various Hadeeth texts

from a number of scholars.

More than twenty of his works in Arabic have been published

and distributed in nearly a million copies. His books, which are

often published in four colours, are attractive and pleasing to

the eye, and available at low-cost. It is because his books deal

with issues affecting the lives of everyday people, that they are

acclaimed and appreciated by all. Many well-wishers make his

books their choice for their donations and free distributions.

The following is a list of some of the works of Dr. Muhammad

al-‘Arifi:

- A work on Tawheed called Irkab Ma’ana, an excellent work

of which 400,000 copies have been published.

- A work on Da’wah to Allah, called Hal Tabhath ‘an Wadhifa,

of which 150,000 copies have been published.

- Innaha Malikah, in 150,000 copies.

- Fi Batn al-Hut, in 150,000 copies.

- A work on the topic of worship in 100,000 copies.

- A work on the topic of Hijaab called Sarkha fi Mat’am al-

Jami’a, in 150,000 copies.

- Rihla Ila al-Sama’ with 150,000 copies published and sold.

- A compilation of counselling to doctors and patients called

‘Ashiq fi Ghurfat al-‘Amaliyat in 70,000 copies.

- A pamphlet called Adhkar al-Muslim al-Yawmiyyah, of which

20 million copies have been published within only three years.

Many of Dr. al-‘Arifi’s lectures are available on the internet

without charge; he also writes columns and essays for various

newspapers and magazines and has appeared on a number of

Arabic satellite television channels.

The administration of Darussalam hopes, in the very near future,

to translate into different languages and publish the various

works of Dr. Al-‘Arifi while maintaining a high literary standard,

Allah willing.

I would like to thank our brothers Saleem Beg and Nasim

Chowdhury for translating and editing this work respectively.

We pray to Allah that He grants the author, the translator and

the editor good health and long life, and that He blesses their

knowledge and actions. We would be extremely delighted to

receive any feedback or suggestions from our readers, and we

hope you remember us in your prayers.

Your loving brother

‘Abdul-Malik Mujahid

Darussalam Publishers

Riyadh - Saudi Arabia August 2008

Contents - 002

Publisher’s Foreword

Introduction

1. They did not benefit

2. What are we going to learn?

3. Why do we search for skills?

4. Improve yourself

5. Do not cry over spilt milk

6. Be unique

7. Who is the most beloved to you?

8. Enjoy the skills

9. With the poor

10. With women

11. With children...

12. With slaves and servants

13. With adversaries

14. With animals

15. A hundred ways to win people’s hearts

16. Purify your intention for the sake of Allah

17. Use the right flavour

18. Choose the right topics

19. Be kind at the first meeting

20. People are like the minerals of the earth

21. Mu’awiyah’s hair

22. The keys to hearts

23. Taking one’s psychologicalcondition...

24. Be concerned about others

25. Show them that you want the best...

26. Remember names

27. Be observant and complimentary

28. Only pass comment on what is good

29. Do not interfere in matters that...

30. How to deal with a meddlesome person

31. Do not criticise!

32. Do not be dictatorial

33. Hold the stick from the middle

34. Make it easy to rectify a fault

35. The other opinion

36. Respond to mistreatment with kindness

37. Convince him of his error so he may....

38. Do not criticise me! End of story?

39. Verify the fault before criticising

40. Whip me gently!

41. Run away from problems!

42. Admit your faults and do not be arrogant…

43. The keys to mistakes…

44. Untie the bundle

45. Self torture

46. Problems with no solutions

47. Do not kill yourself by grief

48. Be content with what Allah has apportioned...

49. Be a mountain

50. Do not curse him because he drinks alcohol!

51. If what you desire does not happen,....

52. We can disagree and still be brothers!

53. Gentleness only beautifies

54. Between the living and the dead

55. Make your tongue sweet

56. Be concise and do not argue

57. Do not care about what people say

58. Smile and keep smiling

59. The red lines

60. Keeping a secret

61. Fulfilling people’s needs

62. Do not burden yourself with what you....

63. Who kicked the cat?

64. Humbleness

65. To worship in secret

66. Take them out of the ditch

67. Looking after one’s appearance

68. Honesty

69. Bravery

70. Steadiness on principles

71. Temptations

72. Forgiving others

73. Generosity

74. Restraining oneself from harming others

75. Do not gain enemies

76. The tongue is king

77. Control your tongue

78. The key

79. The emotional bank balance

80. The magician

81. Help by your speech if you cannot do so...

82. Supplications

83. Patching up

84. Look with both eyes

85. The art of listening

86. The art of discussion

87. Block the escape routes of the detractors

88. Wait and do not interrupt!

89. Charity before consultation

90. It is not important to always be successful

91. Be brave and start from now!

Enjoy Your Life - 001

Enjoy You Life

Compiled By

Dr.Muhammad 'Abd Al-Rahman Al-'Arifi

Translated By

Saleem Beg

Edited By

Nasim Chowdhury

Darussalam

Global Leader In Islamic Books

Kalamullah.com

Enjoy Your Life: Introduction

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

Every one of us like to be loved and respected. When other people show love or respect towards us we become happy. There are many books to know how to earn love and respect of people and I have read some of them and there are also many books regarding how to lead a

successful life, I also tried some of those books. But what I noted when I read those books is that actually our Holy Qura'n has got all the methods to be a successfull loving person but by the plays of Shaithan as he don't want us to be a good Muslim and a good human he took us away from Qur'an and made up our minds to have a great attachment to this place called earth. He played his game so well that he's almost succeeding in it and increasing the number of his preys.

But we still got chance to change things for that all we need is too understand ourselves and acquire the knowledge. We almost forgot about the Qur'an and our beloved Prophet who brought peace in the whole world, who changed a whole community. And made them so good that people started to learn from them and love them and eventually accepted Islam. But as time pased even the Muslims forgot about the ways of our Prophet, who din't use His sword without a reason, Who never used sword for the spread of religion. He was the best of all Human born on earth. Now we wont have a great leader better than him.

Qur'an is the book for the whole world and lets teach the world that and show it to them.

Lets not wait anymore its time.I am starting with the book written by Dr.Muhammad 'Abd Al -Rahman Al-'Arfi which got a heading Enjoy Your Life (The Art Of Interacting With People...As Deduced From Study Of Prophet's Life).

I started reading it and I am on my way to become a better Human being, a better son, a better student, a better friend, a better relative, etc. I would like you to accompany me on this journey to be a better Human being and also call you friend to accompany you. Lets make a change.(Insha-Allah)

May Allah Guide Us All In The Straight Path The Path Of Those On Whom He Had Bestowed His Grace Not The Path Of Those Who Earned His Anger, Not Of Those Who Go Astray

Ameen

May Allah guide us and bless us with the TRUE understanding of His Deen. Ameen.

Rasulullah(saw) said , "The best of charity is a Muslim who learns a knowledge and later teaches it to his Muslim brothers."

Hadith Collection

The Prophet Muhammad (blessings of Allah be upon him and his family) has said:

1. Spread the salaam amongst yourselves. (Muslims)

2. Before speaking the salaam should be said. (Tirmizi)

3. Those who are nearest to God are they who are first to give a salutation (Salaam). (Tirmidhi)

4. Fasting is a shield (from sins). (Tirmizi)

5. Cleanliness is a part of the Faith. (Tirmizi)

6. Actions depend on their intention. (Bukhari)

7. A Muslim is a brother of a Muslim. (Bukhari)

8. The one who recites the Quran and the one who listens to it have an equal
share in the reward. (Bukhari)

9. The best of you is the one who learned and taught the Quran. (Bukhari)

10. Feed the hungry, visit the sick and free the captive. (Bukhari)

11. Salaat is a pillar of the Deen. (Tabrani)

12. A man follows the religion of his close friend,
so each of you should be very careful about whom he takes as a close friend. (Abu Dawud)

13. When any of you eats, he should eat with his right hand and
when he drinks he should drink with his right hand. (Muslim)

14. Mention God's name, eat with your right hand and eat from what is next to you. (Bukhari)

15. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) forbade that a man should drink standing. (Muslim)

16. The strong man is not the good wrestler; the strong man is only the one
who controls himself when he is angry. (Bukhari)

17. When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down. (Ahmad)

18. God will not show mercy to him who does not show mercy to others. (Bukhari).

19. Sadqa given to a poor man is just Sadqa, but when given to a relative it serves a double purpose, being both Sadqa and a connecting link. (Tirmidhi).

20. If you spend (to help others), O son of Adam! I (God) shall spend on you. (Bukhari)

21. It is better for a man to give a dirham as Sadqa during his
lifetime than to give a hundred at the time of his death. (Abu Dawud)

22. When a man dies no further reward is recorded for his actions,
with three exceptions: Sadqa which continues to be supplied, or knowledge from which benefit continues to be reaped, or the prayers of a good son to his dead father. (Muslim)

23. The best house among the Muslims is the one which contains an orphan who is well treated, and the worst house among the Muslims is the one which contains an orphan who is badly treated. (Ibn Majah)

24. The best sadqa is that a muslim man learns knowlege (of the Deen)
and then teaches it to his Muslim brothers. (Ibn-e-Majah)

25. The Lord's good pleasure results from a father's good pleasure,
and the Lord's displeasure results from the father's displeasure. (Tirmidhi)

26. One who cuts ties of (blood) relationship will not enter paradise. (Muslim).

27. Do not wear silk, for those who wear it in this life shall not wear it in the Hereafter. (Muslim)

28. Whoever eats or drinks from gold or silver utensils, is indeed filling his stomach with the fire of hell. (Muslim)

29. Assuredly the angels do not enter a house in which there are statues
or figures. (Bukhari)

30. Announce your Nikkah (marriage). (Tirmizi)

31. Nikkah (marriage) is my Sunnat. (Ibn-e-Majah)

32. Whoever turns from my sunnah is not from me. (Bukhari)

33. When one of you is invited to a marriage feast, he should go to it. (Bukhari)

34. Among lawful things divorce is most hated by Allah. (Abu Dawud)

35. If any woman asks her husband for divorce without some strong reason, the odour of paradise will be forbidden for her. (Tirmidhi)

36. He who goes out in search of knowledge is in God's path till he returns. (Tirmidhi)

37. To learn the Knowledge of the Deen is fard upon every Muslim man and woman. (Ibn-e-Majah)

38. Anyone who shows the way to something good has the same reward as the person who does it. (Muslim)

39. The man who is most hateful to God is the one who quarrels and disputes most. (Bukhari)

40. None of you can truly be said to believe until he wants for his brother what he wants for himself. (Agreed upon)

41. God does not look at your forms and possessions, but He looks at your hearts
and your deeds. (Muslim)

42. When one of you looks at someone who is superior to him in property
and appearance, he should look at someone who is inferior to him. (Bukhari)

43. This world is the prison of the believer and the paradise of the unbeliever. (Muslim)

44. Whoever remains quiet attains salvation. (Tirmizi)

45. Anyone who safeguards for My sake what is between his jaws and what
is between his legs, I will safeguard Jannah (Paradise) for him. (Agreed upon)

46. It is not allowable for a man to come in between two people without their
permission. (Tirmidhi)

47. The distinguishing factor between kufr and Imaan is the deliberate neglect of Salaat (Prayer). (Muslim)

48. A Muslim has five duties towards another Muslim; to return a salutation (Salaam),
visit the sick, follow funerals, accept an invitation and say 'God have mercy on you'
when one sneezes. (Muslim)

49. He who believes in God and the Last Day should honour his guest; he who believes
in God and the Last Day should not annoy his neighbours; and he who believes in God and the Last Day should say what is good or keep silent. (Bukhari)

50. There are three signs of a hypocrite: when he speaks he speaks lies, when he makes
a promise he breaks it, and when he is trusted he betrays his trust. (Bukhari)

51. Seventy thousand of my people will enter paradise without being taken to account.
They are those who do not use spells or take omens, but put their trust in their Lord.
(Bukhari)

52. I and the one who takes responsibility for an orphan, whether his own kin or of others, will be in paradise thus," and he pointed his forefinger and the middle finger with a slight space between them. (Bukhari)

Hijab Check

Hijab check

Hijaab is not a piece of cloth on your head. Just because some of the sisters have their head covered, they think that the requirement of Hijaab is fulfilled. They don’t realize that wearing a Hijaab requires much more than just covering your head. Actually, if you think about it, Hijaab is the way you talk…the way you walk…the very way you carry yourself.

In fact, Hijaab is an attitude in itself. It’s a whole way of life. Allah says:

“And say to the believing women to lower their gazes, and to guard their private parts, and not to display their beauty (zeenah) except what is apparent of it, and to extend their head coverings (khimars) to cover their bosoms (jaybs), and not to display their beauty except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their womenfolk, or what their right hands rule (slaves), or the followers from the men who do not feel sexual desire, or the small children to whom the nakedness of women is not apparent, and not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments. And turn in repentance to Allah together, O you believers, in order that you are successful.” (Surat-un-Nur: 31).

Here are some of the more common issues in light of this verse about the Hijaab.

Well, my head is covered. What more do you want?

If you look carefully at the ayah, it clearly states that the head covers (khumur) should be drawn over the neck slits (juyoob). Khumur is the plural of the Arabic word “khimar” which means a head cover. Juyoob is the plural of the Arabic word “jaiyb,” which refers to the neck slit (of the dress).

Yet, some sisters just cover their head with something, and think they are fulfilling the rights of Hijaab, although part of their hair or body is showing, or their whole neck and chest area are exposed. Actually, that was the way of the women of Jahilliyah.

Al-Qurtubi said: “Women in those days used to cover their heads with the khimar, throwing its ends upon their backs. This left the neck and the upper part of the chest bare, along with the ears. Then Allah commanded them to cover those parts with the khimar.”

So secure the scarf well around your face, covering your neck/chest area, and keep those half sleeves and capri pants for your Mahrams.

Sorry.…tight jeans and short shirt just don’t cut it

You can’t wear tight jeans and a short shirt with a piece of cloth on your head and think this is Hijaab. Nor can you wear anything else that is tight, describing the shape of the body in any way, even if it is long.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “In later (generations) of my ummah there will be women who will be dressed but naked. On top of their heads (what looks) like camel humps. They will not enter into paradise or (even) get a smell of it.” (Muslim)

If it is see-through, its NOT Hijaab

You CANNOT use chiffon or other see through material to cover your hair and body. Everything should be covered and the color of the skin [and hair] underneath should not be visible.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) once received a thick garment as a gift. He gave it to Osamah ibn Zayd, who in turn gave it to his wife. When asked by the Prophet why he did not wear it, Osamah indicated that he gave it to his wife. The Prophet then said to Osamah “Ask her to use a ‘gholalah’ under it (the garment) for I fear that it (the garment) may describe the size of her bones.” (Ahmad, Abi-Dawood)

(The word gholalah in Arabic means a thick fabric worn under the dress to prevent it from describing the shape of the body).

The Hijaab shouldn’t attract attention

The dress should not be such that it attracts men’s attention to the woman’s beauty. Allaah clearly states “not to display their beauty (zeenah).” Yet, Subhaan Allaah, some Hijaabi sisters are dressed in such a way that they attract more attention to themselves than they would if they didn’t wear Hijaab!!

How could such zeenah be concealed if the dress is designed in a way that it attracts men’s eyes to the woman? It beats the purpose of Hijaab.

Allaah tells us: “And stay in your houses, and do not display yourselves like those of the times of ignorance…” [al-Ahzaab:32]

What about make-up and perfume???

Wearing make up is also part of the zeenah that Allaah orders us NOT to display. So if your head and body are appropriately covered yet you are wearing bright red lipstick or dark eyeliner such that people confuse between you and a raccoon… uh sorry, that’s not Hijaab.

And keep those nice fragrances for the home, between you and your husband. That’s part of Hijaab too, even if you are going to the Masjid.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “Any woman who puts on perfume and passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.” (al-Nasaa’i, Tirmidhi: hasan by Albaani)

Tinkling Jewelry and Jingling Bracelets – ‘Loud’ and tinkling anything, be it jewelry, bracelets, clip-clopping shoes, little bells on clothes, you name it – if it jingles or makes noise, it is against the principles of Hijaab, because it attracts attention to the one wearing it.

That is what is meant when Allaah orders us in the above verse… “not to strike their feet (on the ground) so as to make known what they hide of their adornments.”

No laughing, joking, or hanging out with non-Mahrams

Some sisters assume that since they are properly covered, its okay for them to sit around and talk, laugh, joke, etc. with the men, but that’s not right, even if he is ‘the Shaikh’.

Allaah says: “… then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire, but speak in an honorable manner.” [al-Ahzaab:32]

So talk to them when there is a specific need, and in a manner that is not necessarily rude, yet it is polite but firm.

Staring at the brothers or ‘checking them out’ is NOT Hijaab

Allaah orders us to “lower your gaze” in the above verse. Why? Because a single ‘look’ can say more than a thousand words. So, even if you are properly covered, keep those eyes down, conduct yourself with ‘Hayaa,’ and avoid ‘fitnah.’

‘Chatting’ on the internet/phone is not part of Hijaab, either

There is no such thing as “we’re just friends.” Talking to non-Mahrams is wrong even if it is through the internet or telephone. There are too many stories of illegal relationships, fornication, broken homes, extra-marital affairs and runaway brides to even mention. That is why in Islam anything that leads to haraam is also haraam.

Allaah says: “Do not (even) come close to fornication, for it is an indecency, and its way is evil.” (Surah Israa:32)

Be careful, even in the way you walk

Remember, you are not a runway model displaying the latest fashion. Walk with modesty and hayaa and you will be respected.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “There are two types of the people of Hell that I have not seen yet… women who are clothed yet naked, walking with an enticing gait…” (Muslim).

Don’t shake hands with non-Mahrams.

Its part of Hijaab. It is not permissible to shake hands with a non-Mahram, because the Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than to touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” (at-Tabaraani saheeh by al-Albaani).

And no, it is not rude to refuse to shake hands with non-Muslims. Simply politely explain that its part of your religion and they are very understanding.

Stay away from the men’s areas

I see many sisters entering the Masjid from the men’s entrance, or standing idle in the hallways or where there is a chance of unnecessary mixing with the brothers.

What for? Don’t we have a separate entrance for ourselves? Why do you think Allaah ordained the Hijaab in the first place? To avoid fitnah, by reducing temptation and separating the genders.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said to the women on his way out of the mosque when he saw men and women mixing together on their way home: “Give way (i.e., walk to the sides) as it is not appropriate for you to walk in the middle the road.” Thereafter, women would walk so close to the wall that their dresses would get caught on it.” (Abu Dawood)

Hijaab is also to conceal your sister

Although some sisters wear the Hijaab themselves, they forget that they cannot talk about another sister and her beauty in front of their own husbands, brothers, etc. Remember, part of your Hijaab is to cover your sister’s ‘awrah’ as well.

The Prophet (Sal Allaahu Alaiyhi wa Sallam) said: “No woman should mix with a woman and describe her to her husband so that it is as if he can see her.” (Muslim)

May Allah guide us and bless us with the TRUE understanding of His Deen. Ameen.

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The Ideal Muslimah

The Ideal Muslimah

By Dr. Muhammad ‘Ali Al-Hashimi
Translated by Nasiruddin Al-Khattab and Revised by Ibrahim
M. Kunna and Abu Aya Sulaiman Abdus-Sabur

Copyright and published by the International Islâmic Publishing House (IIPH), Riyadh, Saudi Arabia in 1999.

Contents

Abbreviations, Symbols and Notes
Expectations
Chapter 1: The Muslim Woman and Her Rabb

The Believing Woman is Alert
She Worships Allah
She Regularly Prays Five Times a Day
She May Attend the Jama‘ah (Congregational) Prayer
She Attends ‘Eid Prayers
She Prays Sunnah and Nafil Prayers
She Performs Her Prayers Properly
She Pays Zakah on Her Wealth
She Fasts During the Day and Prays at Night in Ramadhan
She Observes Nafil Fasts
She Goes on Hajj to the Sacred House of Allah
She Goes for ‘Umrah
She is Obedient to the Commands of Allah
She Does Not Sit Alone With a “Stranger”
She Wears Correct Hijab (Also read: “The Requirements of Women’s Hijab in Accordance with the Qur‘an, the Authentic Sunnah and the Practice of the Pious Predecessors".)
She Avoids Mixing Freely With Men
She Does Not Shake Hands With a Non-Mahram Man
She Does Not Travel Except With a Mahram
She Accepts the Will and Decree of Allah
She Turns to Allah in Repentance
She Feels a Sense of Responsibility for the Members of Her Family
Her Main Concern is the Pleasure of Allah
She Understands the True Meaning of Being a Servant of Allah
She Works to Support the Religion of Allah
She is Distinguished by Her Islamic Character and True Religion
Her Loyalty is to Allah Alone
She Enjoins What is Good and Forbids What is Evil
She Often Reads the Qur’an
Chapter 2: The Muslim Woman and Her Own Self
Introduction

1 – Her Body
Moderation in Food and Drink
She Exercises Regularly
Her Body and Clothes are Clean
She Takes Care of her Mouth and Teeth
She Takes Care of Her Hair
Good Appearance
She Does Not Go to Extremes of Beautification or Make a Wanton Display of Herself

2 – Her Mind
She Takes Care of Her Mind by Pursuing Knowledge
What a Muslim Woman Needs to Know
Muslim Women’s Achievements in the Field of Knowledge
She is not Superstitious
She Never Stops Reading and Studying

3 – Her Soul
She Performs Acts of Worship Regularly and Purifies Her Soul
She Keeps Company with Righteous People and Joins Religious Gatherings
She Frequently Repeats Du‘as and Supplications Described in Ahadith
Chapter 3: The Muslim Woman and Her Parents
She Treats Them with Kindness and Respect (Birr)
She Recognizes Their Status and Knows Her Duties Towards Them
She is Kind and Respectful Towards Her Parents Even If They are not Muslims
She is Extremely Reluctant to Disobey Them
Her Mother Comes First, Then Her Father
She Treats Parents Kindly

Chapter 4: The Muslim Woman and Her Husband
Marriage in Islam
She Chooses a Good Husband
She is Obedient to Her Husband and Shows Him Respect
She Treats His Mother and Family with Kindness and Respect
She Endears Herself to her Husband and is Keen to Please Him
She Does not Disclose His Secrets
She Stands by Him and Offers Her Advice
She Encourages Him to Spend and Give Charity for the Sake of Allah
She Helps Him to Obey Allah (S.W.T.)
She Fills His Heart with Joy
She Makes Herself Beautiful for Him
She is Cheerful and Grateful when She Meets Him
She Shares His Joys and Sorrows
She Does not Look at Other Men
She Does not Describe Other Women to Him
She Tries to Create an Atmosphere of Peace and Tranquility for Him
She is Tolerant and Forgiving
She is Strong in Character and Wise
She is One of the Most Successful Wives
Chapter 5: The Muslim Woman and Her Children
Introduction
She Understands the Great Responsibility that She Has Towards Her Children
She Uses the Best Methods in Bringing Them up
She Demonstrates Her Love and Affection for Them
She treats her sons and daughters equally
She Does not Discriminate Between Sons and Daughters in Her Affection and Care
She Does not Pray Against her Children
She is Alert to Everything that May Have an Influence on Them
She Instils Good behavior and Attitudes in Them

Chapter 6: The Muslim Woman and Her Sons and Daughters-in-Law
A – Her Daughter-in-Law and Her Attitude Towards her Daughter-in-Law
She Knows how to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Daughter-in-Law
She Knows Her Place
She Gives Advice but Does not Interfere in Their Private Life
She Respects Her and Treats Her Well
She is Wise and Fair in her Judgement of her Daughter- in-Law

B – Her Son-in-Law
Her Attitude Towards her Son-in-Law
She Knows How to Make a Good Choice in Selecting a Son-in-Law
She Respects and Honours Him
She Helps her Daughter to be a Good Wife to her Husband
She is Fair, and is Never Biased in Favor of Her Daughter
She Deals with Problems Wisely
Chapter 7: The Muslim Woman and Her Relatives
Islamic View of Kinship Ties
The Muslim Woman Upholds the Ties of Kinship According to the Teachings of Islam
She Maintains the Ties of Kinship Even if Her Relatives are not Muslims
She Fully Understands the Meaning of Upholding the Ties of Kinship
She Maintains the Ties of Kinship Even if Her Relatives Fail to Do So
Chapter 8: The Muslim Woman and Her neighbors
The Muslim Woman is Kind and Friendly Towards Her neighbors
She Adheres to the Islamic Teachings Regarding Good Treatment of neighbors
She Likes for Her neighbors What She Likes for Herself
She Treats Her neighbor in the Best Way that She Can
She Treats Her neighbor Well Even if They are Not Muslims
She Starts with the neighbor Whose Home is Closer to Her Own
The True Muslim Woman is the Best neighbor
Bad neighbors
The Bad neighbor is a Person Who is Deprived of the Blessing of Faith
The Bad neighbor is a Person Whose Good Deeds are Not Accepted
Her Good Treatment of Her neighbor is Enough
She Puts up with Her neighbor’s Mistakes and Bad Treatment
Chapter 9: The Muslim Woman and Her Friends and Sisters in Islam
She Loves Her Friends and Sisters for the Sake of Allah
The Status of Two Who Love One Another for the Sake of Allah
The Effect of Love for the Sake of Allah
She Does Not Forsake or Abandon Her Sister
She is Tolerant and Forgiving
She Meets Them with a Smiling Face
She is Sincere Towards Them
She is Faithful and Kind
She is Kind to Them
She Does not Gossip About Them
She Avoids Arguing with Them, Making Hurtful Jokes and Breaking Promises
She is Generous and Honours Her Sisters
She Prays for Her Sisters in Their Absence
Chapter 10: The Muslim Woman and Her Community/ Society

She Has a Good Attitude Towards Others and Treats Them Well
She is Truthful
She Avoids Giving False Statements
She Gives Sincere Advice
She Guides Others to Righteous Deeds
She Does Not Cheat, Deceive, or Stab in the Back
She Keeps Her Promises
She is Not a Hypocrite
She is Characterized by Shyness [Haya’]
She is Proud and Does Not Beg
She Does not Interfere in that which Does not Concern Her
She Refrains from Slandering the Honour of Others and Seeking Out Their Faults
She Does not Show Off or Boast
She is Fair in Her Judgements
She Does not Oppress or Mistreat Others
She is Fair Even to Those Whom She Does Not Like
She Does not Rejoice in the Misfortunes of Others
She Avoids Suspicion
She Refrains from Backbiting and Spreading and Spreading Malicious Gossip
She Avoids Cursing and Foul Language
She Does Not Make Fun of Anybody
She is Gentle and Kind Towards People
She is Compassionate and Merciful
She Strives for People’s Benefit and Seeks to Protect Them from Harm
She Helps to Alleviate the Burden of the Debtor
She is Generous
She Does Not Remind the Beneficiaries of Her Charity
She is Patient
She is Easy-Going and Does Not Bear Grudges
She is Easy on People, Not Hard
She is Not Envious
She Avoids Boasting and Seeking Fame
Her Speech is Not Exaggerated or Affected
She Has a Likeable Personality
She is Friendly and Likeable
She Keeps Secrets
She is of Cheerful Countenance
She is Lighthearted and Has a Sense of Humour
She Tries to Make People Happy
She is Not Over-Strict
She is Not Arrogant or Proud
She is Humble and Modest
She is Moderate with Regard to Her Clothing and Appearance
She Loves Noble Things and Always Aims High
She is Concerned About the Affairs of the Muslims
She Honours Her Guest
She Prefers Others Over Herself
She Checks Her Customs and Habits Against Islamic Standards
She Follows Islamic Manners in the Way She Eats and Drinks
Spreading the Greeting of Islam
She Does Not Enter a House Other Than Her Own without Permission
She Sits Wherever She Finds Room in a Gathering
She Does Not Converse Privately with Another Woman When a Third is Present
She Respects Elders and Distinguished People
She Does Not Look into Other People’s Houses
She Avoids Yawning in a Gathering as Much as She Can
She Follows Islamic Etiquette When She Sneezes
She Does Not Seek the Divorce of Another Woman so that She May Taker Her Place
She Chooses the Work that Suits Her Feminine Nature
She Does Not Imitate Men
She Calls People to the Truth
She Enjoins What is Good and Forbids What is Evil
She is Wise and Eloquent in Her Da‘wah
She Mixes with Righteous Women
She Strives to Reconcile Between Muslim Women
She Mixes with Other Women and Puts up with Their Insults
She Repays Favours and is Grateful for Them
She Visits the Sick
She Does Not Wail Over the Dead
She Does Not Attend Funerals

Conclusion

“Do not marry Unbelieving woman until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe. A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever. Even Though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But Allah beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of Bliss) and forgiveness. And makes His Signs Clear to mankind: that they may receive admonition.”
(Qur’an, 2:221)

“O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away pare of the dower you have given them, except where they have been guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary live with them on a footing of kindness and equity if you take a dislike to them it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good.” (Qur‘an, 4:19)

Abu Hurairah narrated that Allah ’s Messenger (s.a.w.s.) said, “Treat women nicely, for a women is created from a rib. And the most curved portion of the rib is its upper portion. So, if you should try to straighten it, it will break, but if you leave it as it is, it will remain crooked. So treat women nicely.”
(Bukhari Vol. 4, Hadith 548)